STRESS stress stress

Mental tension a fact of life in modern times that is creating an imbalance in our day-to-day lives. Our personality, relationships and the way of life is affected by stress. Continuous stress can cause fatigue, irritation and lack of concentration. It can also cause diseases such as high blood pressure, heart attack, sleep disorders, hair loss, and skin diseases. Stress can also lead to anger, boredom, jealousy, and depression. Stress that persists for long durations can weaken the immune system.

Here are some suggestions to help you get rid of stress:

1. Be aware of your own strength: Personal knowledge of one’s own limitations will help in creating awareness about stress to be undertaken. Organize your tasks in proper time-frames so that you do not get nervous or irritated and exasperated.

2. Balanced diet: Balanced and nutritious diet helps in getting rid of stress. Consume as many fruits as possible. Avoid fried and spicy food items, fast food, junk food, cold drinks etc. Eat seasonal green and leafy vegetables.

3. Exercise: Go for an early morning walk in fresh air everyday so that you feel energetic the whole day. Do some form of exercise regularly. Yoga could be the best alternative because it is preventive in nature and also helps in keeping the mind focused and improves mental stability.

4. Positive thinking: Be positive in life, and avoid anxiety. Generally we are anxious about things that don’t ever happen. Try to remain in the present and don’t worry about the past mistakes or about the unpredictable future. Plan in the present and plan according to your capacity.

5. Rest and relax: Take enough rest after performing tiring tasks. Find some time for creative hobbies that can help you relax.

6. Learn to say no: If you feel unsure about certain tasks then refuse them outright. Don’t feel embarrassed in refusing.

7. You are not complete: Be happy with yourself. Be proud of your achievements. Leave complete perfection to others who can guide you.

8. Massage: Go for complete body massage with aromatic oils to get rid of fatigue. A massage facilitates proper blood circulation that relieves stress.

9. Take up gardening and be kind to animals: Be affectionate towards birds and animals. Feed them and organise water for them – this would fill you with a pleasant feeling of satisfaction. Plant trees and saplings in front of your house and look after them by watering them – this would help in taking your mind away from stress.

10. Find time for yourself: Spend some quality time in self-introspection every day. Relax or entertain yourself reading quality literature or listen to soothing music. Spend the time on what you would like to do.

11. Meditate: Sit in a relaxed posture, close your eyes, take a few deep breaths and focus your mind on some thought or sound, preferably on ‘OM’. Another alternative is to develop a passive attitude and watch your incoming and outgoing breath.

12. Be blissful with nature: Enjoy green fields, flowers, sunrise and sunsets, rainbows etc. Dance in rain etc. Enjoy beautiful sceneries like birds flying in the blue sky.

13. Make a list of what worries you: Worries that are penned down on a piece of paper have a mysterious way of disappearing.

SOME WAYS TO GET WHAT YOU WANT

Do you ever wish you lived a different life? Do you wonder how things would have been if you'd taken a different path? Is it really too late to chase your dreams?

Often fear of failure, life's distractions and plain laziness can make us put up obstacles to achieving what we truly want.

But instead of wasting time envying other people's careers or lifestyles, make a few small changes to the way you think and plan, and you could find yourself achieving everything you've ever wanted.

1.Get lucky

If you're fed up with other people having all the luck, it's time to become one of them.

Luck doesn't choose people - rather it's people who choose to be lucky. In his book How To Get Lucky, Max Gunther says the trick is to put yourself in the path of good fortune.

That means developing a set of skills and strategies, like taking calculated risks, spotting and maximising opportunities, knowing when to cut your losses, making good connections, thinking through best and worst outcomes, and directing energy at the right activities. Becoming one of life's winners takes some canny thinking, but it can be done if you put your mind to it.

2 .Big yourself up

You may be only half way through that catering course, or only completed two chapters of your first novel, but you need to act like you've already arrived.

So, think: you're not training to be a chef, you are a chef, and you're not a would-be writer, you are an author. If you don't, you're in danger of mentally sabotaging your intentions as it suggests you don't quite believe in yourself.

So when introducing yourself to others, get in the habit of saying, 'I'm a writer' or 'I'm a chef' and hand out business cards printed up with your new title and contact details.

Treating yourself like a total success reminds you that you will be one!

3 .Boost your memory

Research has found that having a good working memory - being able to remember and process information at the same time - makes you more positive.

The study, conducted by the University of Stirling, found that a good working memory tends to be connected to better jobs and relationships, making you more optimistic and confident that you can cope with problems and adjust to situations.

Tracy Alloway, who conducted the research, says: "With working memory you're taking new information, integrating it with the facts you know, and then moving forward."

Boost your working memory by playing card and video games, which require you to memorise a number of bits of information.

4. Work to a deadline

We all know we are much more efficient when we have a deadline.

It's easy to put things off and prioritise the humdrum if we think we have all the time in the world. But this means we never get down to spending time on stuff we really want to.

Health and well being consultant Liz Tucker from behappybehealthy.co.uk recommends imagining you only have 48 hours left on earth. What would you do, where would you go, and with whom?

"Suddenly, things like finishing the ironing become much less important," she says.

"We can't all give up our jobs but a change in attitude can make you reprioritise and make time for things you love."

5. Make connections

However good you are at what you do, improving your career success is dependent on other people - sometimes people you don't even know yet.

Dinah Bennett, co-author of It's Not What You Know, It's Who You Know: A Guide To Networking, says: "When you want to follow a new path or start a new business you have to branch out and make new contacts in order to survive and grow."

Contacting people and organisations that might be useful to you and making mutually beneficial connections can make or break a career.

Look into what conferences, workshops and training courses are going on in your field and see if you can attend or even offer your services. Introduce yourself to the key players, ask a few intelligent questions and pass on your contact details.

6.. Do your homework

Making big changes in your life takes confidence, and nothing boosts confidence quite like being fully prepared.

Find out all you can about what it will take to attain your goal. Research online, check out books and magazines, investigate courses. Talk to people who've done what you want to do. If you don't have any 'connections', call the relevant associations or visit businesses.

7. Don't think about it

Got a big decision to make? Just don't think about it.

Recent research from the Netherlands has found that the best way to solve a complicated problem is not to spend time agonising over it.

Distracting yourself for a while or sleeping on it helps the brain come up with a solution, because our subconscious minds are given time to weigh up the pros and cons.

Clear-thinking and decisiveness can be make-or-break skills in many situations, and some dilemmas are obviously too big to solve impulsively.

The big, life-changing ones that affect your future, like where you live, the work you do, and who to spend your life with, cannot be sorted in a what-the-hell way - but neither do they need to be endlessly picked over.

8 .Be obsessed

Often the projects that mean the most to us - the career we'd love, our dream home, the business idea that could make us millions - get shelved because everyday life gets in the way.

So we waste our time fixating on our frustration, rather than focussing on how to make our dream happen. Creativity coach Eric Maisel recommends 'productive obsessing' - making your brain serve your purpose rather than getting distracted.

"When you get a grip on your mind and pursue trains of thought that actually serve you, you begin to create productive obsessions and return your brain's power to your own control," he says.

Build time into your weekly schedule to focus wholeheartedly on your heart's desire, banish distractions and plan how to make it happen.

9. Enlist some cheerleaders

Everyone needs a life support system.

Sometimes it's not enough to resolve to sort out an aspect of your life. You need someone to keep you motivated when the going gets tough.

Whether you're re-training professionally, trying to lose weight, or looking for a life partner, keeping your eye on the prize can be hard when you get distracted from your good intentions.

Accountability is the key to success, so develop a support system.

Friends, family, colleagues or even an online chat group can help keep you focused and cheer you on when you leap a hurdle.

10. See every setback as an opportunity

Tempting as it can be to look at disappointments as the end of your hopes, it's better to see them as opportunities.

Perhaps you didn't get that job you applied for. Or maybe you've just lost your job.

Getting a rejection letter is a chance for you to find out what skills or qualities you lack that you can work on for next time. And losing your job could mean a new lease of life and a chance to pursue a dream.

The anxiety caused by job insecurity can be enormous - BUPA recently reported a 41% increase in the number of calls to its counselling helpline about stress at work - whereas losing your job frees you up to move on. It may not feel like it at the time, but these setbacks can be the best thing.

10 THINGS TO AVOID Sloppy presentation. Always look smart and stylish, even if you can't look expensive. Being boring. However driven you are, take time to ask other people about themselves. Arriving late. If you have an appointment, plan your route and leave well in advance. Not following through. Promising to send your CV the next day means just that - remember the impression you're giving. Passing judgement. Never speak negatively of another person in your field as it only reflects badly on you. Putting yourself down. If you don't believe in yourself, why should someone else bother? Drinking the bar dry. If you're trying to impress, lay off the alcohol to ensure that you present yourself at your best. Expecting immediate results. Times are hard and you may have to knock on many doors before one opens for you. Aiming unrealistically high. Instead of setting yourself up for a fall, aim for something that's genuinely within your reach. Planning on failure. Expecting the worst almost guarantees it will happen.

FEW QUOTES BY RELATIVITY MAN (ALBERT EINSTEIN)

• "Any intelligent fool can make things bigger, more complex, and more violent. It takes a touch of genius -- and a lot of courage -- to move in the opposite direction."
• "Imagination is more important than knowledge."
• "Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love."
• "I want to know God's thoughts; the rest are details."
• "The hardest thing in the world to understand is the income tax."
• "Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one."
• "The only real valuable thing is intuition."
• "A person starts to live when he can live outside himself."
• "I am convinced that He (God) does not play dice."
• "God is subtle but he is not malicious."
• "Weakness of attitude becomes weakness of character."
• "I never think of the future. It comes soon enough."
• "The eternal mystery of the world is its comprehensibility."
• "Sometimes one pays most for the things one gets for nothing."
• "Science without religion is lame. Religion without science is blind."
• "Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new."
• "Great spirits have often encountered violent opposition from weak minds."
• "Everything should be made as simple as possible, but not simpler."
• "Common sense is the collection of prejudices acquired by age eighteen."
• "Science is a wonderful thing if one does not have to earn one's living at it."
• "The secret to creativity is knowing how to hide your sources."
• "The only thing that interferes with my learning is my education."
• "God does not care about our mathematical difficulties. He integrates empirically."
• "The whole of science is nothing more than a refinement of everyday thinking."
• "Technological progress is like an axe in the hands of a pathological criminal."
• "Peace cannot be kept by force. It can only be achieved by understanding."
• "The most incomprehensible thing about the world is that it is comprehensible."
• "We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them."
• "Education is what remains after one has forgotten everything he learned in school."
• "The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing."
• "Do not worry about your difficulties in Mathematics. I can assure you mine are still greater."
• "Equations are more important to me, because politics is for the present, but an equation is something for eternity."
• "If A is a success in life, then A equals x plus y plus z. Work is x; y is play; and z is keeping your mouth shut."
• "Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I'm not sure about the the universe."
• "As far as the laws of mathematics refer to reality, they are not certain, as far as they are certain, they do not refer to reality."
• "Whoever undertakes to set himself up as a judge of Truth and Knowledge is shipwrecked by the laughter of the gods."
• "I know not with what weapons World War III will be fought, but World War IV will be fought with sticks and stones."
• "In order to form an immaculate member of a flock of sheep one must, above all, be a sheep."
• "The fear of death is the most unjustified of all fears, for there's no risk of accident for someone who's dead."
• "Too many of us look upon Americans as dollar chasers. This is a cruel libel, even if it is reiterated thoughtlessly by the Americans themselves."
• "Heroism on command, senseless violence, and all the loathsome nonsense that goes by the name of patriotism -- how passionately I hate them!"
• "No, this trick won't work...How on earth are you ever going to explain in terms of chemistry and physics so important a biological phenomenon as first love?"
• "My religion consists of a humble admiration of the illimitable superior spirit who reveals himself in the slight details we are able to perceive with our frail and feeble mind."
• "Yes, we have to divide up our time like that, between our politics and our equations. But to me our equations are far more important, for politics are only a matter of present concern. A mathematical equation stands forever."
• "The release of atom power has changed everything except our way of thinking...the solution to this problem lies in the heart of mankind. If only I had known, I should have become a watchmaker."
• "Great spirits have always found violent opposition from mediocrities. The latter cannot understand it when a man does not thoughtlessly submit to hereditary prejudices but honestly and courageously uses his intelligence."
• "The most beautiful thing we can experience is the mysterious. It is the source of all true art and all science. He to whom this emotion is a stranger, who can no longer pause to wonder and stand rapt in awe, is as good as dead: his eyes are closed."
• "A man's ethical behavior should be based effectually on sympathy, education, and social ties; no religious basis is necessary. Man would indeeded be in a poor way if he had to be restrained by fear of punishment and hope of reward after death."
• "The further the spiritual evolution of mankind advances, the more certain it seems to me that the path to genuine religiosity does not lie through the fear of life, and the fear of death, and blind faith, but through striving after rational knowledge."
• "Now he has departed from this strange world a little ahead of me. That means nothing. People like us, who believe in physics, know that the distinction between past, present, and future is only a stubbornly persistent illusion."
• "You see, wire telegraph is a kind of a very, very long cat. You pull his tail in New York and his head is meowing in Los Angeles. Do you understand this? And radio operates exactly the same way: you send signals here, they receive them there. The only difference is that there is no cat."
• "One had to cram all this stuff into one's mind for the examinations, whether one liked it or not. This coercion had such a deterring effect on me that, after I had passed the final examination, I found the consideration of any scientific problems distasteful to me for an entire year."
• "...one of the strongest motives that lead men to art and science is escape from everyday life with its painful crudity and hopeless dreariness, from the fetters of one's own ever-shifting desires. A finely tempered nature longs to escape from the personal life into the world of objective perception and thought."
• "He who joyfully marches to music rank and file, has already earned my contempt. He has been given a large brain by mistake, since for him the spinal cord would surely suffice. This disgrace to civilization should be done away with at once. Heroism at command, how violently I hate all this, how despicable and ignoble war is; I would rather be torn to shreds than be a part of so base an action. It is my conviction that killing under the cloak of war is nothing but an act of murder."
• "A human being is a part of a whole, called by us _universe_, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest... a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty."
• "Not everything that counts can be counted, and not everything that can be counted counts." (Sign hanging in Einstein's office at Princeton)

FEW QUOTES BY SIR EDISON

Anything that won't sell, I don't want to invent. Its sale is proof of utility, and utility is success.
 

Be courageous. I have seen many depressions in business. Always America has emerged from these stronger and more prosperous. Be brave as your fathers before you. Have faith! Go forward!
 

Being busy does not always mean real work. The object of all work is production or accomplishment and to either of these ends there must be forethought, system, planning, intelligence, and honest purpose, as well as perspiration. Seeming to do is not doing.
 

Discontent is the first necessity of progress.
 

Everything comes to him who hustles while he waits.
 

Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nine percent perspiration.
 

Great ideas originate in the muscles.
 

Hell, there are no rules here - we're trying to accomplish something.
 

His genius he was quite content in one brief sentence to define; Of inspiration one percent, of perspiration, ninety nine.
 

I am proud of the fact that I never invented weapons to kill.
 

I find my greatest pleasure, and so my reward, in the work that precedes what the world calls success.
 

I have friends in overalls whose friendship I would not swap for the favor of the kings of the world.
 

I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.
 

I know this world is ruled by infinite intelligence. Everything that surrounds us- everything that exists - proves that there are infinite laws behind it. There can be no denying this fact. It is mathematical in its precision.
 

I never did a day's work in my life. It was all fun.
 

I never did anything by accident, nor did any of my inventions come by accident; they came by work.
 

I start where the last man left off.
 

If we did all the things we are capable of, we would literally astound ourselves.
 

It is astonishing what an effort it seems to be for many people to put their brains definitely and systematically to work.
 

Just because something doesn't do what you planned it to do doesn't mean it's useless.

Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
 

Maturity is often more absurd than youth and very frequently is most unjust to youth.
 

Nearly every man who develops an idea works it up to the point where it looks impossible, and then he gets discouraged. That's not the place to become discouraged.
 

Non-violence leads to the highest ethics, which is the goal of all evolution. Until we stop harming all other living beings, we are still savages.
 

One might think that the money value of an invention constitutes its reward to the man who loves his work. But... I continue to find my greatest pleasure, and so my reward, in the work that precedes what the world calls success.
 

Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.
 

Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.
 

Religion is all bunk.
 

Restlessness and discontent are the first necessities of progress.
 

Restlessness is discontent and discontent is the first necessity of progress. Show me a thoroughly satisfied man and I will show you a failure.
 

Results! Why, man, I have gotten a lot of results. I know several thousand things that won't work.
 

Show me a thoroughly satisfied man and I will show you a failure.
 

The best thinking has been done in solitude. The worst has been done in turmoil.
 

The body is a community made up of its innumerable cells or inhabitants.
 

The chief function of the body is to carry the brain around.
 

The reason a lot of people do not recognize opportunity is because it usually goes around wearing overalls looking like hard work.
 

The three great essentials to achieve anything worth while are: Hard work, Stick-to-itiveness, and Common sense.
 

The value of an idea lies in the using of it.
 

There is far more opportunity than there is ability.
 

There is no expedient to which a man will not go to avoid the labor of thinking.

There is no substitute for hard work.
 

There will one day spring from the brain of science a machine or force so fearful in its potentialities, so absolutely terrifying, that even man, the fighter, who will dare torture and death in order to inflict torture and death, will be appalled, and so abandon war forever.
 

There's a way to do it better - find it.
 

They say President Wilson has blundered. Perhaps he has, but I notice he usually blunders forward.
 

To have a great idea, have a lot of them.
 

To invent, you need a good imagination and a pile of junk.
 

To my mind the old masters are not art; their value is in their scarcity.
 

Waste is worse than loss. The time is coming when every person who lays claim to ability will keep the question of waste before him constantly. The scope of thrift is limitless.
 

We don't know a millionth of one percent about anything.
 

What a man's mind can create, man's character can control.
 

What you are will show in what you do.
 

When I have fully decided that a result is worth getting I go ahead of it and make trial after trial until it comes.
 

Your worth consists in what you are and not in what you have.